Nobody tells you what has to be done when someone you love dies. I don't know of any books out there to say: "THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO" if there is, e-mail me at lucille104 at gmail. com.
So with mom now in the nursing home for a little over week dad has been talking non-stop about dying. But just the dying part not anything else. So today before we went to visit mom I summed up the courage to ask him what has to be done.
This is what he told me:
Where the will is and that I have to contact the lawyer
The house is in my name ( I knew this already) and since it was in my name I am responsible for paying all the bills that go along w/the the house until the house is sold.
Land tax, water tax, electric, Gas, & telephone.
I also have to cancel the car insurance and notify his insurance company. I have to have at least a dozen death certificates, which you get from the funeral home. He also told which funeral parlor he wanted to be viewed at.
I have to notify Social Security, where he worked before retiring and Fidelity about his death for various reasons.
He also told me to not only get in touch with his lawyer but also our accountant because there will be taxes I will have to pay and she will tell me how much so I can put away that money.
This may sound morbid but I don't want to fail my dad and I want to carry out his wishes and if I don't ask him who else is there to ask that would know? Nobody.
Like me he is scared.
But the world is still spinning on its axis and will continue to do so even when I'm gone.
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Hi Lucille, you might want to review this information from the Ontario government: http://www.gov.on.ca/ont/portal/!ut/p/.cmd/cs/.ce/7_0_A/.s/7_0_252/_s.7_0_A/7_0_252/_l/en?docid=012340 or this one: http://www.seniorsinfo.ca/en/azindex/D/Death
My father passed away a few years ago (complications from MS) and my sister and I had to tie up all the loose ends. I thought there was an online checklist but I can't find it. I'd suggest that you make up your own, and make notes. (For some reason, Dad continues to receive a monthly notice from the water company, telling him he has a credit for $21.99, no action required. Since he passed away in 2002, this amuses me to no end. I appreciate the little reminder of my father's life, and get a kick out of knowing he would have also found this very amusing!)
My heart goes out to you, I know this is a difficult time for you, but you will get through it. Roseanne
Hey! Thanks Rosanne the links will come in handy when the time comes. I cannot thank you enough for your kind works of wisdom and support.
So THANK YOU VERY MUCH
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