What Dad has taught me today about dying

Nobody tells you what has to be done when someone you love dies. I don't know of any books out there to say: "THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO" if there is, e-mail me at lucille104 at gmail. com.

So with mom now in the nursing home for a little over week dad has been talking non-stop about dying. But just the dying part not anything else. So today before we went to visit mom I summed up the courage to ask him what has to be done.

This is what he told me:

Where the will is and that I have to contact the lawyer
The house is in my name ( I knew this already) and since it was in my name I am responsible for paying all the bills that go along w/the the house until the house is sold.
Land tax, water tax, electric, Gas, & telephone.

I also have to cancel the car insurance and notify his insurance company. I have to have at least a dozen death certificates, which you get from the funeral home. He also told which funeral parlor he wanted to be viewed at.

I have to notify Social Security, where he worked before retiring and Fidelity about his death for various reasons.

He also told me to not only get in touch with his lawyer but also our accountant because there will be taxes I will have to pay and she will tell me how much so I can put away that money.

This may sound morbid but I don't want to fail my dad and I want to carry out his wishes and if I don't ask him who else is there to ask that would know? Nobody.

Like me he is scared.

But the world is still spinning on its axis and will continue to do so even when I'm gone.